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Distractions

This entry was posted on Friday, May 21st, 2010 by Frances Ryan.
Tags: widowhood, spoiled, spa, shopping, sad, pretty things, jewellery, golf

I don’t know if it’s better to face things head-on or to find distractions, but personally I prefer the latter in many cases; today being one of those cases. So, instead of spending the day thinking about what I didn’t want to think about—the fact that my husband died before we made it to our 4th wedding anniversary, meaning that he wasn’t here to celebrate our 5th anniversary with me today—I’m distracting myself from my reality.

My first distraction was a golf lesson—my first of the year, and only my 4th ever. And it shows. But—wow!—I did really well! My goal for the summer is to work on my long game so today’s hour-long lesson was working on my drive. Afterward, I hit a bucket of balls on my own and managed to hit the ball further and straighter than I ever have before.

It may sound silly, but I as readied myself for each swing I talked to Paul and asked him to just help me out. Knowing that he hated golf, I have to think that he wasn’t helping so much as my asking was making me concentrate on my swing that little bit more. Either way, I actually looked like I knew what I was going! Bonus—two hours of my day was wasted away!

From there I headed into Moscow where I had nearly three hours to waste before my spa treatment. I hit the mall where I found a fantastic new ring (on sale!) and attempted to buy golf shoes. But apparently the local sports’ store doesn’t care ladies’ golf shoes. Weird. Then I sat in the little coffee shop with my laptop, a book, and a journal and wasted a bit more time before heading to the spa.

After an hour-long, extremely relaxing facial, it was back to Pullman for a manicure and pedicure – with my newly-purchased “A Oui Bit of Red”. The last time I treated myself like this was the day before my birthday, so it was certainly a long-overdue pampering session!

By the time I made it home it was time for a junk food feast and a few episodes of The West Wing, Season 4. Really, not a single one of these activities should have been on the calendar for me today, because May 21 is supposed to be a “we” day, not a “me” day. But as it’s Just Frances now, I suppose it’s OK that I change the way I spend the day. A bit of healthy distraction seems like a good way to do it. Though if I’m honest, I spent a lot of time thinking about the “we” days. Then, I always do…

Comments

From what you have said about Paul, I feel quite certain that he would have wanted you to spend the day enjoying yourself as much as you could under the circumstances. My thoughts were with you yesterday.

(And when you said “Moscow”, I thought for a minute you’d gone to Russia—now that would be distracting!)

by Laura Brown at 4:40am (GMT) on May 22nd, 2010

Thanks, Laura! I appreciate your thoughts! And the giggle at your initial reaction to Moscow!!

by Just Frances at 12:56am (GMT) on May 24th, 2010

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